Thursday, November 11, 2010
Love Language...What we are looking for...
Love and Language are two very important things to me. The fact that many people including her, don't know how to feel...literally. As I see it... Thats really her problem! I accept my "feelings", I acknowledge them, and even if, I'm not or they're not "Conventional," I don't let that stop me from being honest with myself about "feeling". OK~ I get it... so maybe she just thinks I'm complicated!
Here's how it works in her world, Again...as I see it! Which may mean, that I'm wrong! (I doubt it, but the possibility exists!) After having a conversation about Ex's...Hers, Mine, and possibly Yours....she made the following comment: she said "I wouldn't want anything to happen to my ex, but there is absolutely no emotion left in me for him." she repeats stearnly "I feel nothing for him" She then proceeded to say..."I'll always love him because he is my Sons Father"....~Screeeeeetch...~Fish Tail~ Fish Tail~ Sliding Stop.........BULLSHIT!
Its not difficult! (Ok... just go back and read it slower...it'll eventually make sense!) The reason I bring all this up is, I do not fear my emotions...I have taken the time to feel...I know better then most what I feel considering I'm the one to feel it...I have entertained several unconventional conversations in the last several days, primarily because of the comments made to me by this person. I have men opinions and lady opinions on the matter and then there is My Opinion...The topic of "what is love" was brought up at a dinner party I was at, and the very fine gentleman dining with us practically leaps up and in Broadway fashion quoted the final scene from When Harry Met Sally! I have to agree with that very fine Gentleman, Love is when you accept from the other person everything they are in their finest to ugliest moment. You accept them and all their faults..Your heart still beats and you see ALMOST only their good and potential....and because of that I can be labeled a romantic. Logic on the other hand says that timing and circumstance and trust are also key ingredients. I also believe that sometimes no matter how hard you try, you just cant help who you fall in love with! When I was getting married for the second time a friends mother said to me, "In order to make your marriage work your partner needs to share a very simple idea with you. Each day when you start new you need to say to yourself what can I do to make this person happy today...and your partner needs to do the same." Happy doesn't have to be Presents, Happy doesn't have to be to do the laundry, Happy is defined by what simple thing that can bring a joyful emotion to your partner... I took the Love Language Test and posted my results up there...It appears Words/ Affirmation, Time and Touch are what makes me tick...Then again....That's something I already knew!
As the Holidays Begin...I hope you find Your HAPPILY EVER AFTER ...
I am the LoveMuffin!