DO OVER!

Even this Kid could Kick my Ass at Tetherball

When does life really give you a DO Over? When we were kids an epic fail sometimes allowed for a do over...Tether ball for example: I had many do overs playing tether ball...I was clumsy as all get out! I could not serve that string attached fucking Volley ball for shit....I would often YELL ...."DO Over!" I was the Do Over Tether Queen! I even practiced Serving cuz I sucked so bad! I realize (just now) one very long dot dot dot filled sentence into writing this blog that I have "Digressed" right out of the blog start gate...
DO OVER.....So let me Start again! As Im reading Sara Swears a lot I come across a very intriguing topic! Its part of the BloggerStock monthly theme!(Which I did Try to Join...their Badges are screwy  though!) The Theme is DO OVERS and Sara of the Swears A lot persuasion is a member swapper with this group of writers.They blog the set theme and then simualtaniously will post on each others page.. I get confused as to who wrote what on what blog...because of all the Swapping but there is a general theme consistency on all of them so you really end up not giving a shit who wrote what, and you just find yourself all caught up in the different takes on the topic! Which now means I have begun following about 10 more bloggers because I was so taken with the topic! We'll see in the next few weeks if I have found a new blog haunt! I'm hoping perhaps I will!
So as the topic goes DO OVERS: Ive decided I will write my own Do over list as well...side note: I don't have the specifics as to the Definition of Do Over...However, I have read several blogs that were about the one thing they would redo if given the chance. So I started thinking...what would I redo if given the chance? Id have to say there are several things I would like a Do Over on and I'm basing them on some of the things the above talented bloggers wrote about.

So here is my list of: Do Overs: They are numbered because I like Numbers, not because they are in any particular order of  Epic Failure:

1. I would love a Do Over of the conversation I recently had with my Son concerning his Virginity. (If I could have a Do Over I would have NEVER had the conversation! There are some thing I just DON'T NEED TO KNOW!)

2. I wish I could have a DO OVER and tell someone who died  recently just how very much they meant to me. Candidly and Honestly, I'm sad that I didn't get the chance!

3. I would give just about anything have a complete DO Over with my Ex Husband...Ha but not what one might think! I need an honest conversation with my Ex-husband about our parting and how his friendship and support NOW is vital to me! Not just some vague in the elevator fragment of innuendo communication that was left to an interpretation of whoever chooses to read into it...Or hear it...or something like that! You know that "moment" that happened recently~ HELLOOOOOOOOOOOO I CALL A DO OVER!

4. I wish I could DO OVER the little things that seemed so important "then"! I'm talking any "Drama Filled Whatever" that I got in the middle of 'cuz it was grown up to have issues ~ Including but not limited to ALL the bullshit that I found myself rolling around in!

5. I would have never hit that Bus stop sign, instead I would have let the old fucker in the caddi hit me instead! CHA CHING OLD FUCKER! I want a DO OVER!



Ok that's it for now, I feel better!
Xo Done Over Muffin

A Beginning and an End...

September 29, 2007. The Harvest Moon was full and our expectations for a long lasting union were set. I did not marry my sweetheart in a traditional wedding. The ceremonies did give respect to a traditional service on some levels. However, we had a 3 day celebration that ran with the moon cycle. Our Wedding Rings were hung from a tree by a black silk cord and stayed hanging for the full moon cycle and were removed at its peak. We then used the cord in a hand-fasting ceremony on the beach. We gave back to the sea the gift of Amethyst for allowing our nuptials to take place on her "porch" and we celebrated with Chocolate Cake, Italian Spumante and an Italian Feast.

It was a memorable 3 days. We allowed our closest friends and family to see our vows exchanged, our service was open only to about 25 people. We are pretty private about our religious views, we don't want the ignorance of others to create a wall between us,  it sometimes incites arguments among those who don't understand or who are so zealot in their own beliefs that they have no tolerance for others! I have had people call it Voodoo, Hocus Pocus, and Devil Worship. I laugh at them, We are in fact Wiccan. We were both raised in Christian homes, and as the recent survey shows we probably have more knowledge of religion then most "Christians". Our beliefs do not allow or permit us to judge others, or their belief systems. We also choose not to offend other religions by impressing our beliefs onto them. Because of this, we did not explain the Hand Binding prior to the wedding and allowed our Priestess to explain the significance to our guests as the tradition was happening,  my sister Terry being the most significant to David and I coming together bound our hands for us! With all this openness and the Practical Magic Blog party having just taken place, I'm feeling "ok" about sharing  my religious views rather then keeping them private! I however can not write about my wedding ceremony with out mentioning them in brief because of the hand-fasting ceremony, which was the most important element of the service in my opinion. Being bound to someone is a pretty big deal, I feel as though we have been bound to each other since childhood! Its odd how several boyfriends and One Husband have all had physical features very similarly to David. Its even more Odd when people point it out to you! So as we enter our 3rd year married, I have to say  quite honestly that our journey this far has been happy, with the exception of the normal arguments over kids, money, and sports ~Go Blue! Thats all the normal stuff! I have to say that I wouldn't choose to be anywhere else or with anyone else! We spent the 1st full year of our marriage building a business and suffered the loss of both my Grandmother and my Aunt to cancer. David is my support and I am so grateful for him!

We expected those losses and as hard as they are and were to deal with, loosing a peer was even more tragic. As we celebrated our 1st anniversary my beautiful friend Heidi suffered the devastating loss of her soul mate and best friend, Michael SPUD Black (09/29/08). As we mark each year married she marks each years loss. She hasn't lost her spirit or Micheal's either! Heidi has become a teacher of sort, living through this has put her in the position of a mentor, although Im sure she is much to modest to make that claim!I'll make it for her! What I love most and have learned the most from my beautiful Heidi Anne is that: You must not ever take each other for granted. Say what you mean and mean what you say to each other, life may not give you a second chance! She has taught me that Family means the most while they are here, and quite Frankly we decide who our family is not the DNA you share! You should live everyday as though its your last. and by no means ever pass up an opportunity to laugh! She has come a long way since loosing Mike. She may  never feel whole but she does move forward. She is still the best Mother to his children, the best sister to his sister, and the best friend to his best friends that she can be. As David and I celebrate our love Heidi, We toast to yours as well!
May Everyone Love and Be Loved!
That is our toast! Raise your glass!
Salute!


~ Love Muffin