Some people who know me know that I dont usually give people the "Silent Treatment" I consider it rude, and classless! With that said, I also choose not to talk to
some people. This is not saying anything about those I choose to not speak to...
This is about ME. I know that there are a few readers who wonder by the Muffin Club by chance, referral or embedded link....we'll say, via Facebook. So If you happen to be one of those people this might sound a bit pompous, and for that Im sorry, as this may be your first impression. Thats my disclosure...take it or leave it!
I choose my friends carefully and I give all of myself to them. I hold nothing back. However, when the time has come that we "Part Ways by Choice"...NOT circumstance....Ok! Ok! Ok! MY CHOICE!... You will find yourself Locked Out of My world....it is rare that you will find me giving you anymore of my time, or my thought. (CAVEAT: This does not include Boyfriend Breakups or ExHusbands that I share a child with...Im always willing to keep a friend...if the Love Light Burnt out.) However if
we me, decided the time to move beyond you has arrived...then trust me Ive moved on! What brings this to the
foreskin forefront of my blog is: I have a few people via Facebook, that stop in comment my status posts or drop a pleasant hello....and for those few I choose to not reply! I dont feel I should have to Set my security settings to keep out certain people...I love social networking and I use it with my business...so Friends of Friends who are not my friends basically can still see and comment my stuff...I have rented condos through Facebook and I have gotten quite a few client leads and all because I am pretty transparent. (Jeeze...must I justify my time online?) So for all the transparency, I also have 3 friend requests sitting in my inbox that I have not accepted,
rejected there is now no deny, or ignored...and here is the reason why!
First of all If you respond with an accept your saying Yes I accept you, your faults, your Drama, your lifestyle....too intersect with mine. Yes this includes my door being open and me helping you when ever I can!
So I choose to NOT ACCEPT....Also If I declined you then Im kinda saying Hell to the No....In Your face....and Fuck Off but not in a term of endearment way....(Yes Fuck Off is a term of endearment in my world on occasion)....and here's the thing...I HAVE 400+ friends....so to say NO to someone is rude...like with 400+ friends I don't have any more room? Whatever...so I choose to not Reject You, completely...that however, doesn't mean the door of opportunity is open...Because I also don't IGNORE YOU....and here is the true reason why I don't ignore you either....If I hit the Ignore Option, you can continue to ask to be my friend....Its clear you've not been accepted...you've been pending 6 freaking months or more (The oldest) I'm probably never gonna accept you...and for the same reason I don't eat left over food out of the trash....I'm done with it. Ive Moved on, Moved Up, Moved Over....and really....YOU SHOULD TOO!
Tune In Next time...I'll tell you why Ignored Option ONE is still on permanent Ignore!
I have more than a few REAL friends added and made many more REAL friends as a result from networking and blogging. You are, of course, the prime example of what I consider a "successful online friendship" that never would've happened otherwise. I honestly can't imagine my life without the Muffin being a part of it over the last few years.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I'll accept anyone's friend request because they are just as easy to get rid of later on if you don't ever connect with them. Of course, I have no problem with expressing myself in ways so that people who aren't really there for me will often find their own way out. Religious figures and icons are always a good target for helping to weed out some of the overly-righteous and pretentious people in your lives. ;)
Four more days, Brandie. We should be planning a joint-vlog or something. ;)
o- LOL! Joint Vlog! Bwahahahaha Youre going to be on vacation! No time for Blogging!
ReplyDeleteOY! Now I have an overwhelming need to check MY Facebook .....lol.
ReplyDeleteOy is right! Go check....I would never perm ignore you mamma!
ReplyDeleteSo r u telling me I should have just left those I ignored in my friend requests? Sorry--I've had several that ask me over and over and over again and I just hit ignore. I honestly don't think there even dumb enough not to get a clue. There are few I have done this to, but done it...why certainly.
ReplyDeleteAnd just think- if you hadn't answered a letter I wrote and if I would have shut the fuck up, we wouldn't be friends.....Friends indeed...so fuck off!
Wow. You and I are like Friendship Philosophy Soul Mates. No, really. When I'm done with someone, I'm d.o.n.e with them. You are not in my world, you have no idea what's going on with me, and you are no longer allowed to have a say in how I conduct my life.
ReplyDeletePS: If people keep sending me requests, I eventually send out a "hey, we're not friends so here's a C so you can buy a clue." Yeah, I know I'm lame...
Angie that Letter I was compelled to Answer It would have gone ignored had I not Hijacked it! Hijacked it I did! Not only do I know when there is corn in my sisters Shit...I had her Password to Myspace...Of which neither of us remember it now! Blahahahahaha and I would certainly think that if the latter had not have happened you woulda found a way around if you needed to! La Familia is always first and they get a little more room...However Ive cut some of them off as well! Fuck Off I Shall!
ReplyDeleteBig Fat Gini! We must be, cuz thats how I roll! I feel like each of us allow certain drama and a certain amount of Drama in our lives...but people who are self destructive enough and who by shear contact can take you down with them in a crashing and burning motion only because they are to Chicken Shitted to either Succeed or better yet crash and burn on there own...well I want nothing to do with them! They Say Misery Loves Company....MY NAME AINT COMPANY! Its Brandie~ Ms Muffin if your Nasty! I effin crack myself the hell up!
ReplyDeleteOOOO ANGIE....Yes leave them just floating in your friend request in box...or send them a nice Cunty Note...tell em to ESAD
ReplyDeletehahahahaha--love it and will! Why didn't you tell me to fuck off? I feel abused almost...hehehe!
ReplyDeleteword verification: genoes--is that like Pizza, it sounds like pizza....
Great......what ever
ReplyDeleteDo what did You Say Hookah?
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